Saturday, December 17, 2011

Tiffany's and Jeff's Wedding @ the Federal Building on Wall Street

Tiffany and Jeff and I had done a SKPE interview instead of a face-to-face meeting, since they were coming from Indiana. All their guests were also from the "mid-West" - Indiana and Wisconsin. Everyone loves Manhattan (well, almost), and this couple especially, and I suppose that explains their choice of the financial district (The Federal Building on Wall Street) for their wedding ceremony. It also explains why the "reception" afterwards was at a great NY pizza place. (In the evening, the couple, who are great music lovers, headed off to a concert, while their guests tried to fit in seeing as much of the city as they could.

As usual, New Yorkers were well behaved, interested in what was happening, and polite. (I'm serious!) Many were filming, and I'll still looking for the ceremony on YouTube. The weather cooperated, and this couple that I liked so much, and their family and friends were all enthusiastic about the ceremony we pulled off. I'm sure it was something a little different than what they're used to. Here's what the bride had to say:

"We were very pleased with you and your ceremony! It actually struck a cord for me personally because I sort of struggled w/ not "fulfilling my dreams" before I met Jeff..and when you mentioned that all your dreams may not come true, but it's God's will.. it really put that thought at ease. We loved the white water rafting analogy as well, so perfect. My family and Jeff's family thought you were great. We would recommend you to anyone.

"If there is any way I can help support you and what you do please let me know. I'd be happy to post anything on your website and please feel free to use our photos for your website. Thank you for making our day so special!"

(I did post almost 30 photos in the "Portfolio" section of this website, if you'd like to meet the couple for yourself. I want to thank Carlos Castillo for his professional and creative work at the wedding, and for providing these great shots. I hope we can work together soon, and I think we're going to work something out for my couples to get preferential treatment if they use his photographic services.)

Saturday, November 12, 2011

James' and Monica's Wedding at Wagner's Cove in Central Park

When James proposed to Monica, the sun came out and a rainbow appeared. Strangers down the beach from where they were clapped and celebrated with them. Well, that's the kind of spell that continued for their wedding, and the great luck they had on their big day - their Central Park wedding at Wagner Cove. The day was a beautiful Fall day, The musicians who I've praised elsewhere, were amazing, (I loved every one of their selections, and they're just an expert and personable duo.) and I can't wait to see the pictures that their photographer Sasha Felix took. She was omnipresent, very likeable and great to work with. (I recommended Sokol, the cellist, to James and Monica, and I know I'll be recommending Sasha too.) The guests navigated the hill down to our spot without incident - although I did catch the groom's mother once to prevent her from falling into the water! The relationship that James and Monica seem to have seemed very special and unique to me, and believe me, I meet a lot of couples. When they did the English/Spanish reading "Solo Tu" to each other, there wasn't a dry eye in the group. The way they were into each other made me at first want to be the bride (when he looked at her and spoke to her), and then I wanted to be the groom (when she responded). Very special, great, super-cool day in the Park! I'm posting a few other pictures in my "Wedding Portfolio" for now, with professinal ones to come later. Check that out to see for yourself what the venue and the musicians looked like - and the beautiful bride. (James, you looked good too.) P.S. the photo is of the bride and her father.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Wedding at Zuccotti Park (Two True Occupiers!)

It hasn't happened yet, as far as I know, but there's no reason why it shouldn't. Just think about it - no need to worry about catering, or the guest list - or even seating for that matter. And nobody drinking and then driving home to worry about. Music - already there. DJ with a sound system - you know why that's not needed! Oh, and did I mention, an abundance of Police protection at no cost? (Maybe even some distinguished guests will show up - Patti Smith, Pete Seeger, Mayor Bloomberg, etc. Maybe Radiohead will finally come to Occupy Wall Street - for your wedding.

So, anyway, I'm offering my officiating services to free for the first couple of True Occupiers that want to get married at Zuccotti Park (Occupy Wall Street). I know a lot of people are making strong connections, and cementing one's they had already, and that's what made me think of doing this. (I'd also be glad to officiate for you if you want to renew your vows at Liberty Park - the same place.)

You have to be sincere, and you have to be part of the 99%. True Occupiers will definitely be given preference. I can't cook for you, provide tents for those cold nights, or speak in the General Assembly (at least not yet), but I can certainly do for you (at no expense) what I do for other couples all the time (almost 100 times a year!). If you're interested in discussing this with me, please contact me.

I'm an seminary trained, ordained Christian minister who works (primarily) as a wedding officiant. You can easily contact me through my website www.clergyoncallministries.com.  Pastor Bill Britton

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Maria's and Pascal's Wedding in Great Neck

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Sharlene's and Terrence's Wedding at Arbor View B & B in East Marion

I had a great wedding at Arbor View Bed & Breakfast Saturday night. The B& B was very nice (quiet, beautifully decorated, well-run) and it's hosts, Veda and Joseph showed wonderful hospitality to everyone. (They served me and the couple and a few guests dinner afterwards!) I highly recommend this place for smaller groups, and if it's just you and your fiancee. And congratulations Sharlene and Terrence. You make a beautiful couple, and I'm glad I could be part of your wedding day - and! looking forward to the big one next August! We may have started a little later than the plan, but in the end, I think everything was perfect. It was definitely one wedding that I wouldn't have wanted to miss. Thanks for the great dinner (Veda) and the wedding cake (Sharlene). It strenghtened me for the long ride home.  :-)   Pastor Bill

Friday, September 30, 2011

Marlene's and Jean Claude's Wedding at Stewart Manor

When I met with Marline and Jean Claude, I learned that they are super-connected in the Haitian community and could either recommend me to many friends and associates, or not. I also learned that Jean Claude owns his own successful Entertainment company and has worked as a DJ. Even so, no pressure!

Stewart Manor was prepared for us, and attended to the the bridal party nicely, as they always do. We went over all the last minute details, and then everything came together in the beautiful ceremony room at the Manor - complete with a fire in the fireplace. (It was right behind where I was standing, and if I only could have turned turned around after the ceremomy to roast the other side, I would have been thoroughly cooked.) Here's what the couple had to say:

"First, we want to take this moment to thank you for the beautiful service that you gave us. You made our wedding day very special and very personal with all the attention to details you gave throughout the process. From the first phone call, to the get acquainted lunch meeting, the contract preparation, going over every details of the ceremony and finally to your superb delivery with a very personal touch, we can only say that you are the best.
 
We've only heard praises from our guests about our ceremony. Most of the guests are referring to our wedding as the wedding of the century. So we want to say again "Thank you." We will not hesitate 1 second to recommend your services to anyone."
 
May God bless you. Sincerely, Jean Claude and Rose Marline

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

New York Harpist for Weddings

Recently I did a wedding and bumped into Harpist Janet King again. Our paths cross periodically, since both of us serve at weddings. I remember the couple from that day emphasizing to me, "Yes, Janet King! She's the best!" Well, I'm hardly a judge of such things, but I can say that her playing is beautiful, and she is a reliable, friendly, professional person to work with. We stood around in the parking lot after talking about quite a number of things - but most interestingly, her "other hat" - running Big River Barn where you can rent horses for a beautiful ride through the woods (yes, in Nassau County!) in any season of the year. I wanted to drop everything and go and do it right then. Finally, Janet is also a New York state licensed massage therapist, specializing in working with people dealing with cancer. Her therapy helps to alleviate symptoms, helps cancer patients to feel good and to affirm life during challenging times." Bottom line, Janet is one cool person to know, and if thinking harps or horses, you really have to give her a call.

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Jenny's and Julio's Wedding at Villa Russo in Richmond Hill

When I met Jenny and Julio, I knew it was going to be a special wedding. I find myself telling couples all the time that "Chemistry is what separates an average cermony from a special one.", and the more weddings I perform, the more I see how true this is. Well, in the case of this couple, we had really good chemistry from the beginning - lots of sharing, lots of laughs, lots of good communication about who they were and what they wanted. When time for the wedding came, the time we spent developing this chemistry paid off - in a beautiful, joy-filled, personal ceremony. Villa Russo's was warm and intimate, the DJ did a great job, and the guests were attentive and supportive - everything you could want. It was my honor and pleasure to be involved. Congratulations guys!

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Azeb's and Randollph's wedding at Brooklyn Botanical Garden

The Brooklyn Botanical Garden accomodates couples who want an intimate wedding, or who just love the beauty of the outdoors - and who doesn't enjoy a day when the sun shines down, warming your skin - and you're getting married?! Randy and Azeb weren't able to meet with me ahead of time (which is what I usually do), but even so, we had nearly instant chemistry when we did meet the the Garden, and I really enjoyed my time with them. I also received one of my best compliments from one of their guests who said, "Thank you, that was nice. Not the usual blather." Home run! Anyway, you can see from this great picture the kind of chemistry they had, and the nice "vibe" they radiate. Another great day serving another nice couple.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Daisy's and Alex's wedding at Astoria Manor

In 2010 I married a tennis-loving bride and groom at Arthur Ashe Stadium.  A referral from that couple led to a wedding this year at Astoria Manor. Daisy and Alex were easygoing and a pleasure to work with, and they certainly appreciated my help in planning - and on the day of. Here’s how they put it:

“The feedback we are getting from our friends and family about the wedding is beyond positive. Pastor Bill Britton’s flexibility in the way the ceremony is performed makes him a very desirable wedding officiant. Our friends still cannot believe that we were able to include a religious theme in our civil wedding. As Filipinos, it is important that we had a sense of Catholicism in our matrimony; we are truly grateful to Pastor Bill Britton for making that happen. His services are also not limited to the ceremony itself. He guides you from the start to the end and will answer any questions you might have about the whole process. We feel lucky to have found Pastor Bill and honored to have had him as our wedding officiant; his services did not only impress us but also those who attended our wedding. Surely in the future, we will see him again as a pastor for one of our friend’s wedding.”

Thanks Daisy and Alex. It was a pleasure to know and serve you.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Katharine's and Kevin's wedding at the Plymouth Church of the Pilgrims in Brooklyn

Katharine and Kevin tied the knot at the historic Plymouth Church of the Pilgrims in Brooklyn. The church has a rich heritage of powerful preachers who spoke out against slavery - most noteably Henry Ward Beecher, and who used the church to hide and protect slaves on the run - “the Underground Railroad.” When you see the physical location of the church property, you’ll understand immediately how stratigic a location it held. The wedding itself was on the grounds outside, in a beautiful spot that many must be unaware of, but which was perfect for an intimate wedding. Afterwards, we were given a guided tour of the church and told some of the history behind it’s ministry there. It was a great day in every way. While I was there, I made a new friend - Sokol, who was playing the cello, which was unique, beautiful, and just the right choice. I wanted to put in a good word for him (pictured), because I know that my couples are often looking for something other than a DJ, band, or even a quartet, etc. I would commend him to you.

So, first, here’s what Katharine and Kevin had to say: “Thanks again for a great wedding.  We thought everything went perfectly, and you were a great part of it.”  And here’s what Sokol had to say, “Hello Rev. Bill, It was a pleasure to meet you yesterday.  Everyone seemed to enjoyed the ceremony. I am going to hold on to your card so that I can refer you in the future.  At the end I discovered that the bride was German. I studied there for 6 years.  :)  I live in Queens, close to Bayside, but I don't mind traveling far for gigs.  I have a string trio/quartet or pianist/singer who I work with. My wife, Kristin, plays violin and viola. The name of our group is Belle Arti Music.  I checked your website and like it a lot, I think ours needs a little work! Looking forward to hearing from you and working together in the future. Best, Sokol Nikaj - cellist (917) 945-4006. (If you look at their website - www.belleartimusic.com - you’ll see what impressive credentials these musicians have - and that they have played all over the world. Only in the New York metro area is such talent taken for granted.)

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Something Unique for Your Cocktail Hour

Sometimes you want to have something really unique at your wedding. After all, most weddings and receptions follow a certain predictable pattern, and you may want to reward your guests with a bit of a surprise. Mixing it up can challenge even the most creative types though, because many couples are trying to do something different, and after a while it may seem there is nothing novel left to do. Well, never fear, I've found something for you. I believe that saying that the Xylopholks are one of a kind is probably a pretty safe bet. They're great musicians - they're just in costumes - dressed up like animals (e.g., dogs) and fruit (e.g., bananas). You really have to see it to believe it - and to appreciate it. You can find them here: http://www.xylopholks.com

(If you end up using them, please be sure to let me know - and email me a video or some pics!)

Friday, December 24, 2010

Sayaka and Richard's wedding in Central Park

A few years ago my wife and I and some friends went to see the “new” West Side Story (with some songs in Spanish). Believe it or not, it was my first time for this story - although as it turned out, I knew most of the music. When Tony and Maria did “One Hand, One Heart”, I said to myself, “That would work in a real life ceremony. I knew that if I added it to my recommended options, a couple would eventually take me up on it. Well, WWS is Sayaka’s favorite broadway play, and for this couple, it was a natural choice. They tenderly sang these words to each other at the Ladies’ Pavilion in Central Park, and it was very moving, and very beautiful. I only wish I had it on video. They and their guests were fantastic, and we had a relatively warm, nicely sunny day. They had a small gift for me from Japan, and shared some Japanese secrets for keeping warm in the cold! A great day! Here’s what Richard wrote online later in a review: “My fiancee and I live in Japan and were married there with her family. We also wanted to get married in NYC with my own family too. I found Pastor Bill on the internet. We exchanged many e-mails and meticulously sculpted the wedding ceremony. We had our wedding in Central Park on the morning of December 24, 2010 with my family. We also exchanged vows "Westside Story" style and sang "One Hand, One heart". It all went smoothly. We all thank you for making our wedding such a special and sacred event. Pastor Bill Britton is MARVELOUS. He is a professional, "down to Earth" man of god. We couldn't have asked for a better If you are looking for a religious, non-religious or a custom mix wedding, he is the right person for you. I highly recommend him to everyone.”   Sayaka & Richard

Saturday, December 04, 2010

Lisa's and Lou's wedding at Battery Gardens in Manhattan

Battery Gardens Restaurant, in the Southern tip of Manhattan Island provides some of the most spectacular views in the area. It’s an intimate, dramatic place for a wedding that lends itself to a good party. It worked out that way for Lisa and Lou on their special day, and it was a pleasure to be a part of it. Here’s what they had to say:  “Hey Pastor Bill, Sorry it has taken so long to get back to you.  But we wanted to thank you for doing such a great job.  You were dynamite.  You made our wedding so smooth.  Everything we expected of you, you delivered!  Thank you!!!  You did not disappoint. Let me know how else we can help with a testimonial.” All the best, Lou and Lisa ... at Battery Gardens in Manhattan

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Marriage and Money

Good financial advice is hard to come by, since advisors often have their own vested interests. Additionally, even good financial advice can be daunting because it's so overwhelming. Where to begin? What (specificially) to do?

When you're just starting your life together, finances play a big part. Sometimes my couples pay me with two checks - each paying half of the deposit and half of the balance. That's an approach that will be hard to maintain. One has savings and the other doesn't. One owns a home, and the other doesn't - and so on.

This article doesn't try to address all such problems, but it does address the most basic problem very nicely - the lack of money that most people put aside for emergencies and retirement. (Young couples may not want to think about the latter, but as the article shows, starting early and automating the process will lead to great results. You won't have to think about it, but when the day comes, you'll be set - unlike the vast majority of couples who come to retirement age with almost nothing.)

Anyway, I thought this article was full of very practical wisdom, so I wanted to make it availabe to all my couples - and to anyone who stumbles across this entry. I hope you like it as much as I did.

Here's the link.

Pastor Bill

Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Al and Caroline's Wedding @ The Queens Botanical Garden

The Queens Botanical Garden is always a good choice for an outdoor wedding. The location has plenty of parking and is centrally located, and the wedding garden itself is quiet, secluded, peaceful and “outdoorsy.” A tornado had moved through the area days before, but on this beautiful, unseasonably warm day, the only evidence of that was the absence of what had been the garden’s biggest tree. The couple’s  Latin and Brazilian backgrounds informed the mood of their guests, who were very friendly and festive. The limo never came for the bride - to bring her to the garden - but besides that (!), everything went smoothly. The day was warm and pleasant, and we all enjoyed ourselves - including the bride and groom. She wrote, “Thanks so much on making our ceremony extremely personable, unforgettable, and wonderful.” - and mentioned that she had already left several rave reviews online. Not everyone has a job that gives as much pleasure as this one, and I’m always grateful. Caroline and Al, thanks for making me a part of your most special day.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Wedding Chapel in Sayville

When you want to get married in a church on Long Island, it can sometimes be difficult. It used to be that you could stop in at a church near where you live, meet the pastor, and arrange to be married (and probably counseled) there. Usually these days, the pastors are just too busy to do that - and if you are Roman Catholic, there are often impediments if you go to your local parish. I have a friend who makes his church available to me near where I live, but sometimes the couple is looking for something else. Last weekend I finally found a really nice place! In Sayville, there is a scale model of the Dutch Reformed Church of 1867. It holds about 50 people, and there is plenty of parking. The grounds are nice, the church is set off by itself and is very well maintained. It’s a warm, peaceful and pretty place, and much nicer than most, if not all, of the other options I’ve seen. So, if this is the direction you’re going, be sure to check it out - and give me a call. I’d be happy to help you plan your personalized ceremony and then see that it happens just as we planned.



 

Friday, October 08, 2010

Sarah and Andrew's wedding in Central Park

When Manhattan is a destination for a couple getting married, I have a sense of pride when they find it welcoming and great. Andrew and Sarah came from “across the pond”, and that certainly was their experience. I met them for their ceremony in Central Park at the Ladies’ Pavilion - a beautiful day in a beautiful place - and then after that, well, I’ll let them tell you: “Now that we are back home in not so sunny England, we thought that we'd write to say a massive thank you for your time the other Friday, it was really appreciated.  The rest of the day went really well, although after photo sessions in Central Park, Times Square & then Grand Central Station, to say our feet were sore is an understatement. We were so glad that the weather was as good as it was, it made the day that extra special. On the Sunday we started our travels up to Niagara Falls in Canada, stopping over night in Ithaca en-route. We stayed in Niagara for 2 nights before heading back towards New York and stopping in the Catskills over night. The drive was really good and the views were amazing, both in Niagara and en-route, especially with the trees being in mid-change, it's something we've always wanted to see first hand! When we are fully back to normal and recovered, we will recommend you on wedding forums, providing you don't mind? Again, we thank you so much.”    Andrew & Sarah
It’s great to see these familiar sites through the eyes of appreciative visitors, and it reminds me to pay attention to the opportunities and beautiful sites in this place where I live. Thanks Andrew and Sarah, I’m glad our paths could cross in this special way.

Sunday, October 03, 2010

Trevor & Shermaine's Wedding at Antun's in Queens Village

Shermaine and Trevor married at Antun’s in Queens Village in October, on one of those really nice days. I do a lot of weddings at Antun's because I’m “house clergy” there, and I’m always pleased with the care and attention they give to my couples and specifically, to the ceremony. (Not every wedding venue treats the ceremony itself as something important.) Each of the guys that I work with there has been there for years, and they’re quite expert at what they do. Both the bride and groom looked great, and they were calm and ready to be married! The ceremony went off without a hitch, and the guests were appreciative and definitely involved. You could “feel the love.” I was happy to be part of all this, and the couple was happy too. This is what the bride wrote to me on their one month anniversary: "We loved the ceremony and our guests really enjoyed how it was conducted. ... My husband and I are both Catholic and we wanted a religious touch to our wedding and you provided that. Is was easy to work with you because you’re so professional and organized. You took the time to meet with us, so we did not feel like strangers on our wedding day. You made our day memorable and we’ll always remember that!!" Thanks guys, it was my pleasure. (P.S. This is one of the few pictures of me with my robe, so make note, those of you who are wondering what it looks like.)

Saturday, October 02, 2010

Adolfo and Kathleen’s Wedding on the Duchess Yacht at Pier 81

Adolfo is the planning type (like me), and Kathleen, the free spirit. It was evident the day we met, and the day of the wedding. The universe never puts people together who are alike in this way - and for a reason. We not only can learn and grow from the influence of each other - but we’re also (only) somewhat less likely to kill each other. In the case of this happy couple, that was never a concern. The wedding planning brought everything together, and the outdoor setting on the Duchess Yacht was perfect for the day we were given. I appreciated the kind words I received from the couple afterwards, and decided to share them with you.

“We had the distinct pleasure of working with Rev. William Britton for our wedding in NYC the weekend of Oct 2nd.  Since our initial meeting with Rev. Britton (lunch in Midtown Manhattan), we felt especially at ease with his style and approach.  So much so, that we were very comfortable with following his lead on the structure and flow for the wedding itself. The day of the wedding, Rev Britton was there on time, and early,--just as he said he would be…We were especially fortunate to have beautiful weather on our wedding day, but Rev Britton’s calm demeanor only added to the peaceful feeling of the day. It’s worth noting, that we received many unsolicited compliments from individuals who attended our wedding regarding Rev Britton. Without reservation, we would gladly and with great pleasure offer our endorsement and recommendation for any couple who was currently considering enlisting Rev Britton for their wedding.  We believe that he helped make our special day S-P-E-C-I-A-L! “   Adolfo & Kathleen

 



 

Saturday, September 18, 2010

Mark and Francis’ Green Wedding @ Blue Hill Farm in Tarrytown

Francis lived in Hong Kong for the year leading up to her wedding, so nothing was ever simple for this couple when it came to the planning. We met in a midtown restaurant once she was in town, and had a great time talking and planning together. Francis has a million dollar smile, and both of these guys are fun. I hadn’t been to Blue Hill Farm before, but I was really impressed with what’s going on there (working farm, museum and book store, big emphasis on healthy foods and cooking, etc.). When it came to the place as a wedding venue, it was amazing. We had a beautiful September day, gorgeous views, wonderful fresh air, and a place for the ceremony that was uniquely nice - as you can see in the photo. The attention to detail by the staff was impressive, and the guests were supportive of the couple and friendly to me. It was really all you could ask for. My only regret is that my blog only allows me to post one photo, since Francis sent me so many great ones. Mark and Francis, thank you for making me a part of your special day!

Sunday, September 05, 2010

Lys and Robert’s wedding at the Swan Club in Roslyn Harbor

I love the Swan Club. It’s the perfect place for an outdoor wedding without any of the typical outdoor “issues” (heat, rain, wind, bugs, etc.). The landscaping there compares to a botanical garden. Everything complements what you’re doing there - getting married! I also love it when I bond with great couples. The people I meet are the best part of my job. Lys and Robert and I did connect in that way, and their wedding at the Swan Club was appreciated by all. Here’s what they had to say:
“Pastor Bill made our special day MAGICAL!  I found Pastor Bill on a whim by simply googling wedding officiants on the internet.  He is as charming in person as he looks in his photos.  Although my wife thought I was crazy for finding our wedding officiant in this way she agreed to meet him.  From that very first meeting with him, she felt very comfortable having him marry us.  He is warm, down to earth, supportive, knowledgeable, and professional with a wonderful sense of humor.  He is well-organized and meticulous with his paperwork and communication.  He made us feel like our wedding was custom-tailored to fit the emotions and love we have for one another.  He was a joy to have at our wedding and we could not have asked for a more genuine and sincere person to marry us!  Thanks again Pastor Bill.  We love you!” - Robert and Lys
 

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Cheryl & Noel's Wedding at Planting Fields Arboretum

I love Planting Fields Arboretum, so I was especially happy to go there for Cheryl’s and Noel’s intimate wedding ceremony. I arrived more than an hour early, which allowed for a very leisurely walk through the main greenhouse, and on the way out, I discovered the bookstore and bought a copy of O Pioneers! (I’ve been reading about the settling of the old West lately. Interesting.) Anyway! ... I had met with the couple beforehand to plan and become acquainted, and we had great chemistry. On the day of,  I met the some family members - all very nice, and Noel’s longtime friends who were there to support him - and give him a hard time (You can tell a lot about people from their friends, and these guys were true gentlemen.) Anyway! ... the couple was very happy with the day, as you can see for yourself.  “Cheryl and I would like to express our sincere thanks and profound appreciation for the wonderful job you did officiating our wedding on Saturday, July 31. Our special day was everything we hoped it could be, beautiful and intimate. Your marriage work sheet and subsequent meeting helped to make our day as joyful and orderly as it was. May God continue to bless you and your family with good health, and may you live long and continue the most important work he has ordained you to do.”

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Christine and Frank’s wedding at Heckscher Park in Islip

I have a working relationship with Pastor Mike Cassara, and this wedding was one that he couldn’t do. It worked out nicely, because I could, and it was a lot of fun. I don’t remember being at Hechscher Park before, so I didn’t know what to expect, but it was a pretty, calming place. (I think I felt my blood pressure going down.) Christine and Frank married under a small bunch of trees - perfect, since it was a hot day, and about 50 friends and family members, including adults and children, gathered to celebrate with them. Later, everyone walked to a large tent nearby for their reception. The venue suited the couple and their friends who were relaxed, and dressed for the day - and you could see some of the young girls who were present imagining wedding days of their own. I was glad to meet photographer Matthew Turri, who was busy taking pictures, and who has recently moved to this area. (This photo is one of his.) Christine and Frank, thank you for allowing me to be a part of your wedding day. I wish you many years of happiness.

Saturday, June 05, 2010

Christine and Robert’s wedding at the Lawrence Country Club

Couples find me in many different ways. Brides who are on The Knot or Long Island Weddings will definitely find me there. Others have done a simple google search - (and found me on the first page of results!).  Sometimes the groom has done a search on Craig’s list, and sometimes one of my happy couples has referred the couple to me. That way is a particularly nice way to begin - bringing back memories for me and giving the couple more confidence right from the start. This time though it was none of those things. This time, Robert, who is a policeman, was in Starbucks - a regular stop, and was talking to my son Andrew about getting married to Christine. Andrew told him what I do, he called me, and the next thing you know, I was performing their wedding. I met with Christine and Robert ahead of time to make plans specific to them, and by the time of the ceremony, we had the feeling that we knew each other. That’s always the goal. I don’t know, but when I was leaving, it seemed to me that the look on Robert’s face said, “I didn’t think it would be this nice.” I hope that was it - exceeding expectations is also one of the goals. Anyway, Christine and Robert, may your union and life together be blessed - and Robert - be careful out there - and say “hi” to Andrew. I’m sure you see him more than I do.  :-)

Wednesday, June 02, 2010

Sam and Chris’ wedding at Fort Tyron in Washington Heights, Manhattan

I married Alison at Tavern on the Green in Central Park (something you can’t do any more - or at least not now), and a year later she recommended me to Chris - her work mate in the UK. Sam (Samantha) and Chris came on a warm June day to be married at Linden Terrace in Fort Tyron.  The views are “commanding” (Wikipedia) and include the Hudson River, the George Washington Bridge, and the Harlem River. The wedding was an intimate gathering of family and friends, mostly if not all from the UK, and the custom ceremony was personal, brief, and (of course) beautiful. Here’s what Sam had to say later, “We just wanted to send you our heartfelt thanks for the wonderful ceremony you did for us on June 2nd in Fort Tryon Park. It truly was a lovely service and our guests couldn't have been more complimentary about the service and choice of words. It really was an amazing day, so thank you so much for the major part you played in making our wedding day so very special.  Should anyone we know opt to marry in New York, we wouldn't hesitate to recommend you.” Thanks guys. I’m glad that your trip to our side of the pond was worth it!  (Photo thanks to photographer Guy Heart.)

Saturday, May 08, 2010

Luis and Mercy’s wedding at Arthur Ashe Stadium

My work takes me to the predictable places for weddings - catering halls, the beach, the park, private homes, churches - and then sometimes the venue is more unique and surprising. Luis and Mercy, and pretty much everyone in their wedding party, are really big tennis fans. Their dream was to be married at Center Court in Arthur Ashe Stadium - and they became the first couple in the history of the stadium in Flushing to do just that! We had a windy day (notice my hair), and the court was ripped up for repairs, but none of it dampened anyone’s enthusiasm. The stadium is beautiful, and next time I’d like to do this with the stands full. Luis and Mercy, thanks for making me a part of your wedding day. May God bless you and your union, and may your backhand be impeccable.
 

Thursday, April 22, 2010

The Magic in Central Park Weddings

A wedding in Central Park presents special challenges (walking in heels to the location, the possibility of bad weather, etc.), but a Central Park wedding can also add another dimension to whatever your great plans are already for your wedding ceremony. Usually the park is filled with people of all kinds (tourists, true New Yorkers, bikers and runners, people with dogs, kids) - and almost without fail, when these people see what you're doing, they show respect, hang around to be informal "witnesses", and wish you all kinds of congratulations! It's unpredictable and special - and you never know when you might end up on YouTube! So, if you're thinking about the park for your wedding day, give me a call. I've done many weddings there, and I know many great locations, and the other important details that you'll want to know. Join my couples from all over the country and all over the world who come to the Big Apple to tie the knot.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Natalie and Francis' wedding at Leonards of Great Neck

Every wedding crowd has it’s own personality. Some groups are unemotional and passive, some are rowdy and loud, and some are engaged in what is being said, and obvious in their support of the couple. This latter description best suits Natalie and Francis’ wedding at Leondards. Their family and friends were a public speaker's delight, showing interest during the ceremony and expressing appreciation after it. A choir group from their church sang beautifully, and it was evident that the room was filled with people of faith. That’s my persuasion also, so you can imagine I had a good time. It was like preaching at a revival meeting. The icing on the cake was this nice card from the couple. “Our sincerest apologies for the delayed response. We wanted to thank you personally for making our day so special. Your words of wisdom and kindness have stayed with us and will guide us through many years together. God bless.”  Francis and Natalie
When I do a wedding that includes a homily (some words about marriage), my prayer and hope is that my words will make a difference. After all, the couple will hear them on the wedding day, and then every time they watch their wedding video - even years later. I’d like to think that they will benefit from the truth in “The Surprises of Marriage” or “Life is Just One Thing After Another.” (I hear myself saying these things almost weekly, and they’re still helpful to me!)

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Taneah and Rick’s Wedding in Central Park

If you remember, the weather lately hasn’t been that great. First we had a couple big snow storms, then we had days of soaking rain followed by sometimes hurricane force winds - and lots of downed trees and wires. What a great treat then to be given an amazing Spring day for a wedding in the middle of March. Taneah and Rick were ready for whatever kind of weather - but their wedding day could hardly have been nicer. It seemed that everyone in Manhattan was outside! We walked down to the Ladies’ Pavilion, where Adam from Elizabeth Solaka Photography (who graciously provided this photo) was waiting. The New Yorkers who were using the Ladies’ Pavilion gladly made way for us, and others climbing on the nearby rocks watched and took pictures. (You didn’t see us on You Tube did you?) It was just close family - and me. Taneah and Rick, thanks for including me in your special day.

Saturday, January 09, 2010

Vinessa and John's Wedding @ the Irish Coffee Club in East Islip

The Irish Coffee Club in East Islip a perfect venue for a smaller wedding ceremony. The restaurant is attractive, easy to find, and has ample parking. The staff is attentive and the food is good. It's difficult to find a place when you have a smaller group, so it's good to know about this one. My couple seemed to appreciate the intimacy of the place, and how it allowed family and friends to relax and focus on what matters. Here's what Vinessa and John had to say about their wedding ceremony: "We enjoyed our ceremony with Pastor Bill tremendously as did our family and friends.  Everything we wanted and could have asked for it and more.  Pastor Bill made our special day truly special and we are thankful for it."

 

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Debra & Frank's Wedding in Kings Park

Debra and Frank had tried several times before, but never managed to actually tie the knot. This time they not only succeeded, but they dodged the huge, oncoming snow storm and managed to celebrate their traditional family Christmas - all in one. With friends, children and grandchildren (from former marriages) all together, they repeated beautiful personalized vows and kissed their way into the state of matrimony. As you can see from the photo, a home wedding can be very intimate and beautiful - and nothing compares to feasting with friends in your own home. Anyway, it was fun for me to meet both of them and some of their great friends - and they were very grateful. All in all, another very nice day - and afterwards, I returned to my own home for a Christmas party there.

Saturday, October 03, 2009

Laura & Kahlil's Wedding @ the Prospect Park Boathouse

I hadn’t been to Prospect Park for a wedding for some time, and I don’t think I had ever seen the Boathouse. It’s hidden away in the park, and a little hard to find, but as you can see from the photo, it’s quite a pretty area. (I realize you can’t see the actual Boathouse, but if you go to the Prospect Park web site, there is a nice picture there.) The groom’s father took the photos, including this one (Thanks!), and music for the ceremony was supplied by an iPod through a boom box - very simple. Even so, we had a great day - with none of the threatened rain, the couple was fun, and their friends and family celebrated with them warmly. Here’s what Laura and Kahlil had to say weeks after: “Thank you again for everything. The ceremony was perfect and everyone was so impressed! It could not have happened without you. Thanks so much again.”

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Christina & Thomas' Wedding at Oheka Castle

Upon entering Oheka Castle one is carried back to the days of the Great Gatsby and the “Gold Coast” mansions of that era. That it was formerly some family’s home tests the imagination. It certainly shines though, as a wedding venue, and on this day it did just that. Christina and Thomas were married under clear, beautiful blue skies, with a warm breeze drifting through the grounds, and everyone dressed to the “nines.” They spoke to each other tenderly, and the guests listened intently throughout. As the wedding officiant, I don’t often stay for the wedding reception - but on this day I did stay for the cocktail hour. Of course the food was to be spectacular, isn’t it always, but in this case it didn’t disappoint. The couple and their guests were gracious and fun, and the staff managed the large crowd well. Everything was just so - as it should be on every bride’s big day. Christina and Thomas, thank you for including me in your special day at this very special place. (Photograph thanks to Counsins Photography - cousinsphotography.com.)

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Kristen and Rob's Wedding at Tobay Beach

Tobay Beach is another little known location for a wedding - but it's a hidden treasure. If you can manage to find it (I had trouble even after I was in the parking lot!), you'll be surprized when you "round the bend" and discover that there is not only the expected beautiful beach, but facilities for catering and sheltered dining. There's plenty of sand, but it doesn't have to be between your toes, and if you have 3" heels on, there are no walking hazards. Anyway, on this particular day we had only amazing, beautiful weather (the kind that explains why we continue to live on Long Island), and everyone was primed to celebrate. Kristen and Rob wanted to keep it simple, and we did. Here's what they had to say about their ceremony: "Thank you so much for an amazing ceremony. We have had countless compliments regarding how intimate and sincere it was. You understood what we wanted and were the perfect choice for us. Thank you so very much."   Love, Kristin and Rob

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Laura and David's Wedding in Levittown

On Saturday I officiated at Laura and David’s wedding at David’s mother’s home in Levittown. The beautiful day was one of a series that characterized the week, and the wedding had a very laid back feel to it that suited the couple well. This wedding was especially meaningful to me because I had married David’s brother Mark and his wife Sarah last August at Pelligrini Vineyards in Cutchogue. In both cases the weather cooperated and the beautiful surroundings complemented the joy of the occasion. A second wedding in one family definitely signifies a vote of confidence - and appreciation for the first one. I am glad to have met both couples and to be able to help them make their wishes for the day come true.  Working with me on this day were photographer and photojournalist Brad Ross from Brad Ross Photography, and Jason Bencivenga from Party Up Productions. Both of these guys handled themselves professionally and with class, and were just nice to work with. If you’re still looking for a photographer, check out Brad’s work, which I liked. And to the Evans brothers and their brides - may you live long and prosper together!

Friday, July 17, 2009

Carol and Michael's Wedding @ The Manhattan Penthouse

Everything came together perfectly for this wedding - and it's partly because the venue, the Manhattan Penthouse at 80 Fifth Avenue, provides spectacular views and is very well run, and because everyone the couple hired to work for them was doing just that. James Abel, the wedding planner, was on top of everything, and the DJ, Anthony Gelo, was easy to work with and did a great job of creating just the right mood. Here's what Carol had to say about my services that day: "I've been meaning to email you but things have been hectic since we returned from our honeymoon. First, I am SO sorry we didn't get to a chance to say goodbye to you.  Michael and I had wanted you to stick around for the cocktail hour and celebrate with us but I realized we probably never told you that. Second, you did an AMAZING job!!!!  We can't thank you enough for all that you did to make our wedding so special. I can't wait to watch the video to see it again.  Everyone said the ceremony was perfect.  Thank you for all of your help with it. If there is anywhere Michael and I can write a review for you...please let me know."  -- Carol & Michael

Thursday, July 09, 2009

Meagan and Eric’s Wedding at Wagner Cove

Central Park never fails to captivate and amuse. On this day, at least as much as usual, since it had rained and was threatening to do so again. We had our window so we grabbed it, and the bride's and groom’s family members and friends were treated to a wedding ceremony in the heart of Manhattan, but that seemed in the next hour to transform into something like the Louisiana Bayou (which would have been familiar since both were Southerners in NYC for their destination wedding). Wagner Cove personifies true quiet, and when the rain finally came - and it poured with a vengeance - the effect was eerie and beautiful. During the ceremony we had sun-bathing turtles as extra witnesses, and a large water-bird of some kind (No one could say what kind.) that stood at attention in the green mossy water. A friend of the couple who plays in a blue grass band sang and strummed a song whose chorus included the words “Strawberry Fields” - and another friend took pictures - like the beautiful one here. The ceremony was simple, the repeated vows heartfelt, the mood joyous. Meagan and Eric, thank you for making me part of your special day, and may God’s blessing be upon your new family!

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Heidi and Jimmy - Wedding at Tavern on the Green

It’s had been raining almost steadily for the last month, and even though none of my couples have been soaked yet, I was a little worried about this wedding. The traffic noise and sirens created a typical Manhattan experience, and the guests from California took it all in stride - as if they would have been disappointed otherwise. Heidi, the bride, arrived late, and I joined the groom in  “waitin’ on a woman.” He remained as patient and wise as Andy Griffith himself, and the delay actually allowed us to take advantage of some cooler temperatures.  Members of his family provided beautiful music (guitar and vocals) that set a spiritual tone - including the song “Charity”, which is a sung version of the famous love poem in 1 Corinthians 13. David Kerry Hannan was everpresent, snapping candid photos that promised to be beautiful. Of course the setting at Tavern on the Green was intimate and beautiful - and the break in the bad weather was all we could have hoped for. I had extra time to talk with family members and friends, and this group was not only good looking, but charming too. The icing on the cake was that in my previous visit I had discovered that the Tavern has it’s own parking (duh!) - so I paid less than half of what I would have otherwise - and saved some wear and tear on my shoes and legs.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Deborah and Frank’s Wedding in Huntington

Many believe that a wedding in a home is less expensive and simpler, but it’s almost never the case. The backyard wedding really shines not for these reasons, but because it can be so much more personal and intimate. Frank and Deborah’s wedding illustrated this well. Guests and family members mingled on the broad patio, and I made plans not to fall into the nearby pool during the ceremony like the famous ceremony that went viral on youtube recently. The photographer Dan Wagner and I had done weddings together before, so I was glad to see him snapping away. When you’re getting married, you don’t want a bad wedding officiant, and you don’t want an incompetent photographer. (The photo here is his.) Anyway, we managed to avoid the rain, the microphone worked nicely (I had had my doubts), and the guests were very attentive to the ceremony and supportive of the couple. The couple’s beautiful home provided a perfect backdrop for a perfect wedding, and I was glad that I was able to contribute to all the joy myself. (When I first talk to couples I often emphasize the importance of meeting together ahead of time to plan and "establish chemistry." In this photo, Deborah was sequestered away before the wedding and I was there to have her sign the license. Ilove this photo because I  think it demonstrates what that chemistry can look like. My desire is to connect with every couple in this way. It can't always happen, but when it does, it's magic.) When I heard from her months later she wrote, "You provided us with far more than we had ever hoped for or expected; we are forever grateful to you."

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Keri and Jack’s Wedding at Old Field in Southold

Until just recently, it seemed normal that it would rain every day. If it wasn’t raining at the moment, you could be sure it would be raining again soon. That’s what this day was like. As the wedding hour approached, the biggest question was “Outdoors, or under the tent?” We had the beautiful location - the Old Field in Southold - all we needed was for the weather to cooperate. The trolley company, North Fork Trolley, arrived about 3o minutes late after the driver got lost with the bride and her party, which essentially cost us our window of sun. We moved under the tent when it started to drizzle, and things were a little crowded, then the rain let up, and after a pow wow the bride made the call, “Let’s do it.” What followed was a wind-swept ceremony with guests that hung on each word as much as the couple did. That makes my job easy and enjoyable - and makes for a memorable wedding. Jack and Keri were radiant throughout, and afterwards, their family and friends also radiated friendliness and good will - a great group of people that could only reflect well on the couple. Photographer Michael Cody did a great job of capturing the joy and camaraderie of the day, and you can see more photos like this one on his web site. The people at the Old Field, Ros and Perry, were professional and attended to everything the couple and their guests needed. As you can see, it’s a beautiful location - and very intimate. The musicians, a string quartet, were troopers - succeeding in creating the mood musically in the midst of significant wind and precipitation. All in all, everyone stepped up, and the result was a great start to a great celebration. Congratulations Keri and Jack!

Monday, June 08, 2009

Unique Brooklyn Wedding Venue - Dyker Beach Golf Course

Would you like a Country Club atmosphere for your wedding  - and to keep it in Brooklyn at the same time? Then when it comes to looking any further .... “fagetaboutit!” The Dyker Beach Golf Course is a new, and still relatively undiscoved jewel of a venue. Yesterday I married Suzanne and Patrick there, and the beautiful location perfectly matched the beautiful weather of the day. Dawn Marie Gallagher, the director of catering and the Maitre’ D Chris Giacalone did a great job of coordinating everything and seeing there we no glitches. Bill Gillen set the mood for the ceremony by playing the bag pipes - and did it quite well. (Not everyone does that. If you're looking for someone to play for a wedding or funeral service, you can contact him through his day job at the Law Offices of Ronald Schwartz.) As for me, Suzanne and Patrick wanted me to do my homily entitled “The Truth about Marriage”, and I was gratified to see as Patrick said later that “You could hear a pin drop.” - people were definitely paying attention. So, if you've concluded that you have to travel to Suffolk County or to Westchester - think again. You can reserve your wedding with trees and grass and fresh air right (oh, and lots of good food also - did I mention that?) in the Middle of Brooklyn. Who would have guessed?

Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Bride in Wedding Dress Saves Family From Fire

Only last year I was married, so I remember the emotions and thoughts that go with the day. For instance, “This is my special day, it should be about me.” - and this is something both the bride and groom think, even if they never say it. And there’s nothing wrong with thinking that way. Being a bridezilla relates more to the way such a conviction manifests itself - and to taking it much too literally. Anyway, when a bride in Bridgeport Conneticut stops the car, wades into the mud, and then into a smokey house - in full wedding attire on the way home from her reception - to save neighbors who don’t know about the fire - well, that’s a reason for commendation and a new found hope in humanity. It’s definitely “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  I’ve never met Georgette Fogarty-Clemons, the brave and fiesty bride in this story, but I’d like to, and I’d be glad to have her as my neighbor.

If you’d like to read the rest of the story you can read the original account by John Christoffersen. (The AP photo is by Douglas Healey.)

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Matt and Jenna's Wedding at Georgio's at Foxhill

In searching for something else today, I found Jenn's nice comments about the ceremony I did for them on June 21 of 2008 at Georgio's at Foxhill. The things she liked I do routinely, and are simply what every bride deserves. Thanks Jenna, I hope you guys are doing great!

Officiant – Pastor William (Bill) Britton – A++++

Pastor Bill did an amazing job and put together a really personalized ceremony for us. I met with 2 different pastors and spoke to a few on the phone and decided I just loved Pastor Bill’s voice, demeanor and ceremony options! We only had to meet in person with him once to go over the details and any requests we had. Then we kept in touch over email and made edits to the ceremony as needed (which readings to do, etc). He kept in VERY good contact over the course of our 6 month planning period and always sent me reminders of information he needed from me.

On the day of the wedding he showed up on time and was very professional. He delivered a beautiful ceremony I thought he did a wonderful job….he had his notes but never seemed to be reading from his book – I think he memorizes most of the stuff! Also I wanted to say that he adds in a small part about how we met which was very cute and a nice touch! Overall this was the most important and memorable part of the day and I am so glad we chose him! Many thanks to Pastor Bill for such a beautiful ceremony!

Thanks for Katie Lyman Photography for this great photo. You're other work in Jenna's review (lots of photos) is great!

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Janet and Michael's Wedding at 70 Park Avenue Hotel in Manhattan

We weren’t able to meet ahead of time, because Janet and Michael came from Maryland for their NYC destination wedding, but I felt like I knew them already because of the great time we had on the phone. They had also send me a photo - of them on their honeymoon in Hawaii - yes, before the wedding! Anyway, the initmate ceremony, which took place in a beautiful suite at the 70 Park Ave Hotel in Manhattan, was a delight to do, since the couple, each in their own way, showed real  affection for each other. Sometimes life experiences make for a more powerful moment, and this was one of those times. The couple had discovered their guitarist, Hanan Harchol (also a successful visual artist), when dining at Tavern on the Green in Central Park. He regaled us with skillful renditions of a wide variety of songs from Bach to Neil Young - including “To Make You Fell My Love” by Dylan, which was a special treat for me. Jerry Grigory promised me a photo for this blog, but he has to return home to Hawaii, his home and more regular location for wedding photography.  (Look for that here soon.) Finally, Inga Taper and Jazmin Callazo from the hotel were attentive and worked hard for the guests and wedding party, and were very professional. Note well couples marrying in NYC, this is one of the few available, really nice, indoor venues for a small party!

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Sergi & Lena's wedding in Belarus

In early 2000 I left Long Island to visit Belarus several times, twice with a church group to do humanitarian aid, and two times with fellow pastors to teach in a Minsk Bible school, preparing future pastors and Christian workers. My students were mostly young, but very determined - overcoming many hardships and taking risks to follow such a course. Of course I loved them. Several of my students went on to marry (each other!), and today, in 2009, I came across pictures they sent me later. This picture of Sergei and Lena makes me miss them, and wonder about them - and wish and pray that they are well today! Maybe they'll see this and contact me! I just wanted you to celebrate with them.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Vladimir & Zhanna's wedding in Minsk

Another pair of students, both from my class, now married. (See the previous post.) Vladimir and Zhanna, I hope and pray that your faith is strong and God is prospering whatever you're doing for him these days. I was blessed to know you. May God's rich blessings be upon the faithful church in Belarus.

Monday, November 24, 2008

Diane and Robert's Wedding at Bryant Park

This couple became a favorite of mine from our first meeting. We had fun together and established that special chemistry that makes for the best ceremonies. Weddings in Manhattan always include a special intangible - and this one was no different. We started at dusk, the temperature was perfect, and the typical crowds streamed by - and even in the city, people show interest and offer congratulations.  The DJ from Eclipse Entertainment set the mood with classics from the American Songbook, and when the bride finally appeared, she was radiant. Some of the tallest buildings in the city formed our backdrop - along with the grassy, peopled expanse of the park. It was a beautiful, fun evening - with the couple’s great friends - and a reception to follow at Bryant Park Grill overseen by Banquet Manager Thomas Ferretti. Thanks for including me Diane and Robert!

Tuesday, November 04, 2008

Lori and Sam's Wedding at Peppercorns

On November 1st Lori and Sam tied the knot at Peppercorns Restaurant in Hicksville. I was pleased to discover this place, because it’s very nice for a smaller group, and more intimate venues for receptions are hard to find. The ceremony room upstairs was attractive and decorated more nicely than many bigger wedding halls I’ve been to. I stayed for the cocktail hour and the service and food were great. The event coordinator Lynda Brolin was attentive to all the details. I also met the DJs, Patty and Jimmy from Mobile Music Masters. They handled themselves and and the music-related issues in a professional manner, and I found them likable and easy to work with. When it came time for the ceremony, Lori was a little nervous, but Sam was a steadying influence, and they were definitely “in the moment” during their ceremony. Both they and their guests were a delight. Her dress was beautiful, and the photographer promised me photos - which I’ll post here as an update later. All in all, it was the kind of wedding I like to do - working with professionals, bringing joy to a great crowd - and a couple that is doing their part thoughtfully and beautifully. Lori and Sam, as I said to you during the ceremony, “May the happiness you’ve found together be yours throughout a lifetime of love.”

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Joyous Weddings

It’s not at all unusual in the New York metropolitan area to spend forty thousand dollars on a wedding. Why do  so many of us incur such an expense?  After all, it’s possible to elope or do do something small and personal in Central Park or at the beach - and these are definitely nice options - and obviously less expensive. So why isn’t that the typical thing?
    I think the answer is found in one of the greetings to the guests I often use at the start of a wedding:  “In these times the couple calls upon their friends and family to share their joy – for to celebrate alone would only diminish the joy of the day.” The idea is a Biblically based one, one clearly seen in the idea of “praise” in the Psalms of Israel. When we “praise” God, our joy in him is increased - it’s greater than if we just sat around alone at home thinking about him and saying nice things.
    Everyone already instinctively knows this. Watching the game is more pleasurable with others. Celebrating is too. When your team wins, you want to text a friend - “Did you see the game? Did you see that catch? Can you believe they made the playoffs?”, etc.  When you lose weight, or close a deal, or meet someone special, the first thing you want to do is tell someone else! And in the telling, your joy increases even more. Shared joy is multiplied.
    So, back to weddings. To celebrate with family and friends definitely makes the day more special. We want them to see the beautiful bride, to hear our vows, to see our first dance, to enjoy the great music we picked out, and to share with us the delicious cake.
    This is bad news for the pocketbook, but good for the wedding industry. It’s pretty good consolation also. So, next time you’re stressing over how much this ever-so brief event is going to cost you, just remember this - it’s all about maximizing the joy.  (The picture above is of my four sons, and my brother and best man at my Long Island wedding. We’re all just feeling the joy.)

Thursday, October 09, 2008

Wedding Officiant Becomes a Groom

On July 19th, I switched places - from wedding officiant to groom! Suddenly I had to take some of my own advice about keeping calm and staying in the moment. And a few things went wrong too. When the flowers arrived, no one was there to accept them. My bride got a very noticeable lip stick smear on the front of her dress just before leaving home for the ceremony. At the church, I immediately misplaced the bag with the license, a lot of cash and gift cards, and our copies of the vows we were to say to each other. At the restaurant the air conditioning wasn't working in one area, and we got fed after most of our guests. There’s more, but you get the idea. Not everything went exactly like we had planned. (“White water” already!)
    On the other hand, both we and our guests loved the ceremony (We found the vows!), and two friends did a beautiful hymn they learned just for us. Another dear friend actually made us our three-tier chocolate cake – the best wedding cake I’ve ever had, and my new wife and I actually pulled off the “dancing with the stars” dance routine we practiced so hard. (You have to understand, I really don’t dance.) Several people have said since, that it was the best wedding they ever attended, and as for us, we had a blast. Others had told me that all the stress would melt away once the ceremony was over, and I can testify that it really works that way.
    Now it’s almost three months later, and I would like to recommend marriage to those considering it. It’s definitely not something to rush into “unadvisedly or lightly”, but when the right person and the right time come along, it’s ... nice.
    I’d like to give thanks to God, for his grace in it all, for our great friends, who celebrated so joyously with us and helped us in so many ways, for our family members who supported us and assisted us, for our many vendors (who will be blogged about more later) and for Pastor Tom Carpino, our friend and super special wedding officiant.
    So, do I know what you’re going through for your Long Island or New York City wedding? Probably more than you think. I hope that knowledge will make me an even better wedding officiant myself – your very own super special wedding officiant!

Friday, May 23, 2008

Keeping Things in Perspective

Every year I perform close to one hundred weddings either on Long Island or in New York City, so by now I've learned, if I didn't already know, that many things can go wrong at a wedding. Some within our control – some definitely not. An earthquake isn't what anyone expects. One minute your biggest concern are sore feet, and the next minute you're just hoping everyone has survived – and wondering if maybe you'll still be married at all on your day - or anytime soon. Near the Chinese town of Bailu, several couples we're marrying when the earthquake on May 12 occurred. Hopefully just this one photo from that day is enough to help us keep things in perspective when it comes to our weddings. The Photo is by Wang Qiang (The Associated Press)

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Kimberly and Tim's Wedding at Land's End

Kimberly and Tim got married last week at Land’s End in Sayville on Long Island. This beautiful location has always been one of my favorites, so this time out I was looking around and asking myself, “What is so special about this place?” I think I can illustrate it better than trying to explain. I looked at the tasteful mirror treatments in this great room with a  bar and a fireplace, and there wasn’t a single smudge on it. Later I watched one of the staff meticulously create symmetrical folds in the table covering for every table. Yes, the ambiance is warm and intimate, and the views of the water make a beautiful backdrop, but what impressed me most was the attention to detail - the excellence. It’s this kind of work that explains the difference in cost from one place to another. I don’t even know what the couple spent, but I know there were cheaper options. Why not choose one of those options? It’s about the views, the food, the wood paneling - but best of all, it’s about knowing that every detail has been thoughtfully given attention. May their tribe increase!

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Raquel and Josh’s Wedding @ The West Side Loft in Manhattan

It seems like a million different places exist in Manhattan to tie the knot, and more venues are opening up every day. Sometimes it’s a rooftop, sometimes a space in a restaurant, and sometimes a loft. In to this case, the Manhattan crowd didn’t have to travel far to join the festivities. The “West Side Loft” at 336 West 37th street was decorated beautifully - as the photographs by Mel Barlow show so nicely. The wedding planners, Mayra Castillo and Xochitl Gonzalez of Always a BridesMaid, attended to the couples’ every need, and the wedding party relaxed and looked beautiful - especially the bride. When it came time for the ceremony, the several hundred guests were quiet and attentive - with only a few tears from the mothers to mark the moment. Raquel and Josh, thanks for including me in your day. From the moment we starting talking on the phone - in between your ski trips and other adventures, I knew it would be a nice connection.

Thursday, May 01, 2008

Who's Getting Married?

I myself am getting married this year in July - a small restaurant in Rockville Centre on Long Island - informal, less traditional, and hopefully, less expensive! Anyway, after conducting close to 500 weddings, you'd think that I would understand what couples are going through as they plan their weddings! After all, I meet with most of them, and I always ask how they met, how they got engaged, how the wedding planning is going, etc. But I discovered what I should have realized already, that there is no substitute for experiencing something yourself! Now I'm the one asking the vendors "How much?" too soon in the conversation. I'm the one who shoves all the wedding planning papers into one big envelope (and where IS that envelope?) Now we're the ones who don't have a venue six months before the ceremony - and who keep having nightmares that go something like this, "Wait, did we get the wedding license?" (said as the bridal party gathers at the church) No wonder so many couples forget to prepare for the marriage itself! Now I understand. So, couples, you have my sympathy, my empathy, and whatever else might be left of me when this is over. I just keep repeating that quote from Herman Melville, "A smooth sea never made a successful sailor." I'm sure that applies.